Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Should I Grieve?

By Kristine Denver

Holding funeral services is a manner of taking action to confront one's grief; it creates a tangible memorial for your departed loved one. Giving tribute to the dead is part of almost all cultures in the world even during ancient times. The manner of giving tribute gives comfort, support, and solace for those who are left behind.

Grieving is a person's natural reaction to loss. It is the anguish that you experience when someone who or something that is part of your life, someone or something you love, is no longer there.

Several examples of mourning for the loss of someone or something are the following:

- a breakup with a person you have are in a relationship with - you lost your career - you lost that one chance to pursue what you love doing the most - a member of the family reveals to you he or she is suffering from a serious illness - the hospital test results came in and you found out that you have a serious illness - you and your spouse are getting a divorce - you had a fight with your best friend - your pet died - a loved one dies

The examples enumerated earlier can all cause a person to undergo a time of grieving. Nevertheless, of all the examples listed, it is the death of a loved one, such as a partner, a child, or a mother or father, that causes so much sorrow. Nothing will be able to fill the void that suddenly opens up in our life when our loved ones are gone.

Our whole lives, we may have made the persons who died the center of our existence. And our lives would never be as it was without them. We grieve for our loss. Nonetheless, it is in grieving that we develop the way to our own mending of the pain that we felt with our loved one's death.

There is no correct or incorrect way to express grief. When we grieve, we must choose the non-destructive ways of channeling the anguish that we feel.

Grieving does not mean caterwauling or crying your heart out each time you recall what you have lost. However, tears do not always signify sorrow. Someone may appear quiet, as if unfazed; yet deep down, they also suffer from the loss.

In addition, grieving, contrary to what is usually said, does not last for a specific time period. Grieving's duration varies from person to person. No one should be rushed and "get over" the grief that they are experiencing. Allow time to heal your sorrow. - 42631

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